Don't hate me because I'm beautiful.

I meant to bring this up when it was a big brouhaha in the news a couple of months ago ... but it's somewhat of a timeless story anyway so I'd love to know what you think. Remember this woman who said that other women hated her because she was beautiful?  You can read her original article here. Boy, did that unleash a flurry of media coverage on par with hair pulling and cattiness! When I started reading the piece, I thought for sure it was satire. But then as I got into it, I sadly realized that it wasn't. And what got really ugly was most of the snarled comments said that this woman was barely attractive let alone beautiful. Ouch. I didn't know whether to feel sorry for her or applaud her for having confidence and bravery to write it in the first place.

Here's what I think -- women don't hate other women because they are beautiful. In fact, I'd say that it's quite the opposite. I think most women prefer to have attractive friends, or friends who reflect who they are or who inspires them. But isn't that why most people want to be in a certain group in school? And isn't it why girls want to be in a certain sorority?  On a similar note, I once read a study that tried to tackle the fascination with celebrity from both male and female perspectives. Let's take Jennifer Aniston as an example (but it could be anyone who is attractive).  According to the study, most women like her because they want to be her friend. And most men like her because they want to sleep with her. I think it's true!

So, back to the article ... I totally disagree with her point. Speaking about women in general -- I think if women don't like you, there's a reason. And it's not because you are beautiful. Sure, you could be beautiful, but you give off a vibe that is ugly, that is why they don't like you.

I'm dying to know what you think! Please tell ...

{Photo by Grant Triplow}.